When it comes to handling divorces, lawyers’ behavior is commonly negative and adversarial. Such is the essence of litigation, the traditional legal mechanism for divorce.
But divorce is a very bad context to perceive the other person as an adversary to be defeated. Behaving as though people and issues must be objectively overcome only aggravates an already hurtful situation. The divorce process becomes longer and more expensive. Even after a final judgment, judges and lawyers are often still involved when custody or other disputes resurface. There can seem to be no end to the emotional and financial expense of a contested divorce.